A while back I posted something on facebook about how parents are superheroes.
Afterwards I worried that people might take that the wrong way, thinking I was encouraging us to have unrealistic expectations of being “supermoms” or “superdads”, filling schedules with awesome kid activities, doing all the Pinterest crafts, grow and eat organic, keeping perfect houses and having perfectly obedient children, etc. (Great, by the way, if you do any or all of those things! I like you, but you are already superheroes even before you do those things, too).
The pour-the-milk, go-to-work, wipe-the-faces, hide-in-the-bathroom-for-two-minutes-to-keep-your-sanity ordinary, everyday mom and dad stuff. That is why you are superheroes.
You, the unique parent with the unique kids. Parenting them in the unique way that you do.
But, superhero you… do you remember to take off your cape every once in a while?
Do you remember who you are without it?
Do you remember how to be that person?
You know you’ve been sitting around the Kiddy Pool too long when you forget that you are anything other than a Lifeguard.
When you start to worry that if you are not watching, something will happen.
If you don’t jump in, no one else will.
If you aren’t there, no one will be safe.
It doesn’t help that one of the kids is glued to your hip.
I think I’ve stayed at my Kiddy Pool a little too long.
In an exhausted, flustered moment I found myself saying words that I knew weren’t true but I felt them and said them anyway.
“You don’t know him like I do.”
Ow. Poor husband.
And you know what? He was able to calm that baby down when I couldn’t, and he was able to calm me down when I couldn’t.
And then three times I read the phrase “If you find yourself (fill in the blank with things I found myself doing and thinking) you probably aren’t getting the break you need.”
In three different places
By three different bloggers.
On three different days.
And it took a week for me to notice the pattern and say
My husband, in all his awesome husbandyness, has told me to take an evening off a week when he gets home from work. He’ll feed the kids and put them to bed.
I haven’t taken him up on that offer nearly as often as I need it. Even though I know that if I asked, every time he’d say yes.
So what do you look like without your cape, Superhero friend?
You’re allowed to take it off, you know.
Even Superman does ;) He spends some time as Clark Kent instead.
By the way… leaving it on all the time… does that look like trust in your Superman (husband) or in your God?
Not for me.
And trust is such an important part of my relationship with both of them. And they want me to trust them. They’ve told me so.
They love it when I do.
And my Superman and Super God know exactly what they’re doing when I’m not around.
C’mon. Let’s take off our capes and go get coffee.
What does your cape-less time look like? This is mine:
I definitely asked for a water not to drink, just so I could use my watercolor crayons ;)